Talking logically is how we prefer to interact.  Using our intellect allows to clearly and coherently express ourselves, communicating in the most efficient and courteous manner.  What happens when we get angry, however, is a different story.  Intellect and rational thinking usually get thrown out.  The “heat of emotion” clouds our thinking and in times of extreme anger or frustration we are left with our emotions that are basically running rogue.

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There is nothing wrong with anger, or being angry.  It’s what we do with it that matters.   How well are we communicating our anger?  Are we taking time to explain it in a way that makes a situation, or a relationship, better?   Is the anger being used to inflict guilt or hurt on someone else?  Or is it more productive if we use to it to heighten our own awareness or explain ourselves to the person we are talking to?  When we hear about things such as anger management, it’s easy to think that it’s possible to stop being angry.  It’s not possible.  Anger is always going to be there.  It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is.  What we do with it is our decision.

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